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To those who try and try and TRY to keep a relationship together: A relationship takes TWO people to put in effort. If they won't join you, maintaining a relationship all by yourself won't *make* it work out. Giving up on a bad relationship doesn't make you weak; it means you have enough self-esteem and strength to let it go... and that your wants and needs are valued... by YOU.
Finding love can prove easier than keeping things together. Sometimes, it feels like everything is in your way: finances, kids, external family, annoying habits … it can be overwhelming for even the most experienced couples.
♥ The double standards of some men: If she argues with him, she's looking for a fight; but if she's quiet, he'll say she doesn't care. If she calls him, she's too clingy; but if he calls her, she should drop what she's doing and be happy he called at all. If she doesn't love him, he'll try to win her; but when she does love him, he'll take her for granted. If she doesn't sleep with him in the first few dates, she's a tease; but if she does, she's a slut. If she tells him her problems, he'll tell her to stop bitching about everything; but if she doesn't discuss what bothers him, he'll say she doesn't trust him. If she offers him advice, she's a nag or a know-it-all; but if he offers her advice, it's because she cares. If she breaks a promise, he'll never trust her again; but if he breaks one, it's because he had no choice and she needs to be more understanding. If she cheats, it's over; but if he cheats, it was just a mistake and she has to give him another chance.
Could this be reversed as "The Double Standards of Some WOMEN?" Sure... but that doesn't make this perspective untrue, and as a man I need to ask my Brothers: Just *listen* to her. You don't have to agree with her, but hearing her perspective will allow you to get into her head a bit and understand her view. THEN, you can form an opinion about what you are going to say in response to what you've heard...♥ A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think: "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca - age 8 When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4 "Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." Karl - age 5 "Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6 "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4 Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7 "Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss" Emily - age 8 "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen," Bobby - age 7 (Wow!) "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate," Nikka - age 6 "There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them." Jenny - age 8 "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7 "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6 "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore," Cindy - age 8 "My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - age 6 "Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine -age 5 "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7 "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4 "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." Karen - age 7 "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." Mark - age 6 "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget," Jessica - age 8 All the above statements are indeed broader and deeper than anybody could think... So, is it really necessary that you should be in a relationship with someone or love can also be expressed among friends and families...
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